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First off @Captain24
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I know how much turmoil it can be to sorta.... reassess your parents. When my sister first told me that our dad was a narcissist? Shattered my whole world!!
Just on what you shared last night - it is so normal to want to find the best in our parents. It's like, so universal an experience that it's talked about in that book. We all kinda grow up thinking that our parents only really wanted the best for us, right?
And that is absolutely 100% true! Our parents did the best they could, they wanted to love us, they wanted to be good parents to us... but they just didn't know how, because their parents never taught them!
Thing is, I always used to gaslight myself... My parents always kept us fed, clothed, and safely housed... they paid for my schooling, they took us on holiday, and they told us they loved us.... so it couldn't possibly be their fault that I'm a miserable wretch, right?
Took me ages to realise what was missing from a lot of my childhood - the emotional understanding. My parents couldn't handle their own strong emotions so how on earth could they handle their kids'?
Anyway, that's my stuff, curious to hear what comes up for you when you read it tho! And if there's anything else been lingering on your mind today?
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