Conflicted

[Jellyfish_25]

Hi, I am struggling with a situation between my son who is bipolar and his partner. He has not been ok since a manic episode in September. The relationship is toxic and she is constantly yelling and screaming at him. He had enough and came back to our house tonight, she constantly was sending messages to him and he wanted to sleep. I took his phone, he has work in the morning. The partner who hates me called crying and yelling that I need to wake him up so he can calm her down, she proceeds to tell me she is pregnant, can't be alone and trying very hard not to harm herself. I kept talking to her and she said that she was going to harm herself and just needed to hear his voice, I got my partner to call the police. I am scared of what my son will wake up to in the morning with all of her messages and how that will affect him. I am so conflicted, I know I had to get help for her from her threats of killing herself, this is such a hard situation

[whyowhy]

Hey there 
Jellyfish_25

Welcome to the Sane forums!

 It sounds like you're in a really tricky space at the moment, you're worried about your son and his partner, and their at times unhealthy dynamic  ☹ Not to mention the threats of harming herself. That’s a lot on your mind and a lot to be dealing with ☹

 I hope the community can give you some words of wisdom around this! 

Also, services like Parentline can also be a good resource during times like this.  Parentline is a free counselling service over the phone, dedicated to supporting parents with parenting issues and concerns . Sometimes practicing a conversation with someone else, or even talking about consequences of having vs. not having the conversation can be really useful. If you're up to it, it might be a great place to start.

Here is the PL NSW website and all the contact numbers for other states if needed:

Parent Line in Other States | Parent Line NSW

There is also Lifeline (ph 13 11 14) which is open 24/7 – and of course if you have any immediate safety concerns, ambulance and/or police are always an option in a crisis

While it might seem counterintuitive, it's also super important to take care of your wellbeing during times like this too! We're better at supporting others when we're in a good headspace ourselves, so please remember to take the time to pause and care for you too.

Take care , and welcome 🙂