13-03-2018 08:20 PM
13-03-2018 08:20 PM
@Former-Member How do you feel about doctors withholding the PD diagnosis from him?
I know you've mentioned hospital-based treatment and ECT - I'd love to hear more about treatment and support services that Mr D has accessed, if that's alright with you.
13-03-2018 08:24 PM
13-03-2018 08:24 PM
thank you @EliseSunflower, @Former-Member
I am finding the discussion very interesting and helpful and I love to learn more so I can help others and to understand what the person and their carers are going through
13-03-2018 08:24 PM
13-03-2018 08:24 PM
@EliseSunflower self care is not something I am very good at, a work in progress. Anything that I do for me gets swept aside when my darling is not in a good space as it takes all of my energy to keep her safe and support the children.
My main self care is my university studies, this is something measurable (through results) that I can focus. I receive a lot of support through the universities disability support services that makes it possible for me to engage with university studies.
I have been accepting help more from our mothers in recent time and delegatingminding duties (both children and my darling) where previously I have tried to do it all myself.
(Sorry if some of these answers are getting out of sync, taking some time to consider my responses).
13-03-2018 08:25 PM
13-03-2018 08:25 PM
Hi @Former-Member @Determined and anyone else who may be reading.
I'm wary of time so going to post my second-last question, for when you have a chance to get to it: What would you recommend to a carer supporting someone with the same personality disorder?
13-03-2018 08:29 PM
13-03-2018 08:29 PM
@Shaz51 really great that you are finding this interesting and are taking the opportunity to learn, I'm sure the others posting here tonight appreciate that as well!
13-03-2018 08:30 PM - edited 13-03-2018 08:31 PM
13-03-2018 08:30 PM - edited 13-03-2018 08:31 PM
Self care and seeking professional help.
More importantly shop around if at first you are not satisfied.
After my first attempt and being told to leave my wife I did not see anyone for some years, something in hindsight was not in my best interests.
Also seek support from friends and family rather than try cover things up and do it all alone. That only results in burnout.
13-03-2018 08:35 PM
13-03-2018 08:35 PM
Great suggestions @Determined! It can be extremely challenging to seek support after a negative experience - to trust another professional.
13-03-2018 08:38 PM - edited 13-03-2018 08:40 PM
13-03-2018 08:38 PM - edited 13-03-2018 08:40 PM
For me @EliseSunflower the biggest challenge is taking time out to look after myself when my darling is so needy.
And I mean that as a love response not a have to response.
13-03-2018 08:39 PM
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