That's completely understandable to want that @avant-garde and it's so disheartening to hear that you're not getting that from members of your church, particularly because it is so difficult to reach out and be vulnerable.
I can only assume that they haven't been in that position themselves and might not know just how much it can help to have someone really listen and just be there for you. Do you feel like they might respond to being asked directly to help, as in "I'm struggling with X and I don't think I can get through it alone. Are you able to X?"
Sometimes when it is the case that others just don't really know how to help they might avoid it all together, so by telling them directly what you need it could be a bit of a relief for them.
