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[Neverland]

@Whitehawk @NiteKat @Shaz51 

Thank you all for the kind words. I am struggling to cope and will be seeing my GP today. 

I feel that I am at a fork in the road and for my own wellbeing I need to find the courage and strength to walk away. It is not what I want and I may not even have the strength to 'abandon' my partner, but at this point we will both drown.

There is a tremendous amount of guilt at considering leaving a good person that is unwell. The general opinion of my close family is that she should realistically be hospitalised and that I am enabling by constantly taking things on.

Again I appreciate the moral support, this is not an easy time

[Neverland]

@Whitehawk @NiteKat @Shaz51 

I am sorry, but I have an update and wanted some guidance. We have been out of contact for about a month and my partner (if I should still be calling her that), has now finally had a diagnosis of schizophrenia. She is desperate to return "home" and pursue treatment. As part of her "illness" she is/was extremely paranoid and made some awful allegations about me that were simply not true.

I love her, I care deeply for her. But she has been gone for nearly 4 months during which time tremendous damage has been done to the relationship. I have been working really hard on my own mental health and made tremendous progress.

I'm really on the fence.to be honest. I have part guilt and part a real desire to have her back in my life. I realise if we do agree to continue to pursue a relationship there will be a very long and difficult road ahead of us. Not least that almost all my friends and family advise me not to continue.